Pregnancy Loss Gardens Blooming White
by Diana Gardner-Williams
The color white feels so right when designing a garden for a baby angel.
Whether your baby passed early in pregnancy or as an infant, a garden of
beauty can be created to honor little angels gone too soon.
When I see white flowers I think pure, sweet, angelic, innocent and
uncomplicated. The color white is prevalent in life changing events and
bridges the past to the future. People who have endured near death
experiences claim to be surrounded by warm, white lights.
We wear white to weddings, to christen our babies and white shirts are
worn to funerals by many. White has a true respect and dignity by various
cultures. White flowers not only have meaningful properties, they are the
only color that is highly visible at dusk and in the moonlight. The
moonlit or white garden has a classic beauty that transcends time. If your
baby passed before their gender was determined, white would be suitable
for both. Maybe the early evening hours are significant and reminiscent of
your angel. It could have been the time you told your family you were
pregnant, when your baby was the most active, or the time you said nighty
night to your sweet child. Whether or not the time of day has relevance,
a moonlit garden is more likely to be enjoyed because of work schedules.
If you have an existing garden for your angel, I highly recommend adding
some white blooms within.
White flowers display incredible contrast with the dark, lustrous green
foliage of certain plants. This contrast automatically attracts your eyes
while brightening a dark space. Here are some plants that offer this
contrast in a shady location; gardenia, otto luyken laurel, hills of snow
hydrangea, immortality iris, and winters cupid camellia. Some suggestions
for full sun areas are; annual periwinkle, swamp hibiscus, daisy and Diana
rose of sharon.
Not all flower blooms are the same in shape and you may want to explore
the different forms that could be significant to you and your baby. The
white bleeding heart perennial has heart-shaped blooms that line the stem
and the white balloon flower looks as if it could fly into the clouds.
There are several white blooms shaped like snowballs; yoshino cherry tree,
album rhododendron, hills of snow hydrangea, and snowball viburnum. There
are several flower blooms that are bell-shaped which will add a very
unique element to the garden. Some of the plant varieties are; pieris,
lily of the valley, enkianthus, rabbiteye blueberry, and japanese snowbell
tree. A few flowers are shaped like small bottle brushes including; otto
luyken laurel, itea and monroe’s white liriope. Other plants have a
fringe-type flower with strap-like petals like the fringe tree, white
chinese loropetalum and cleome.
White flowers not only add beauty but also sweet fragrance. This could be
one of your favorite scents to breathe in while reflecting upon your
child. Some highly intoxicating flowers for sunny areas are; daffodils,
crinium, garden phlox, dianthus, oriental lily, hyacinth, peony, sweetbay
magnolia, sweet alyssum, petunia, gingerlily and snowball viburnum. Some
shade-loving plants are; himalayan sweet box, itea, winter daphne,
hollyleaf osmanthus, camellias, and fortune osmanthus.
You can also include the sense of audio in your baby’s garden. Blown by a
gentle breeze, the sound of grass can be very soothing. Ornamental grasses
add a fine and delicate texture to the garden and wonderful contrast
beside course textured plants. The white, feathery plumes usually stand a
bit higher than the strap-like foliage and can be seen from a distance.
Grasses are usually drought tolerant, grow in full sun and very easy to
maintain. Some good choices are; pampas grass, quaking grass, switch grass
and maiden grass.
If you have a structure like a fence, vine pole or pergola, you may want
to select a vine- like plant to cascade or climb along it. There are
several plants to choose from, including; climbing iceberg or sally holmes
rose, climbing hydrangea, silver lace vine, armand clematis, alba plena
lady bank’s rose, moonflower, hybrid henryi clematis, sweet autumn
clematis, perennial sweet pea vine, star jasmine and white japanese
No matter if your loved one was your baby or your grandmother, white is
soothing and comforting. Adding white blooms will contribute to the
overall beauty of your memory garden for you and your loved ones.
Diana Gardner-Williams is the mother of 3 year old son, 2 early pregnancy
losses and 1 stillbirth. Nearly 3 years after loosing her stillborn son
Tanner, Diana set out to provide a creative outlet for parents to
acknowledge and preserve the legacy of their “angel babies”.
Diana is owner and founder of Just a Cloud Away Inc. support website
providing specialty remembrance kits, memory garden tutorials, keepsake
crafts and inspirational articles and ideas to help families grieving the
loss of their baby.
Diana is also Professional Landscape Designer who has a passion for
developing Memory Gardens to help those grieving the loss of a loved one.
article re-published 5 November 2007